Frustrated with your team/ individual

This isn't uncommon.

Clash of views, values, personality are just some of the reasons for conflict.

Here are some top tips to understand how you can start to make steps to overcome your issues.

  1. Understand the root of the frustration - is it down to a number of things built up over time? Do their values/ morals go against yours?

  2. Empathise and understand with at least 10% of their perspective

  3. Probably the most important and perhaps the hardest...Consider your input and impact within the dynamics of the situation. Frustration is one emotion that involves your ego. It's natural, yet controllable if you are prepared to take ownership of it. For example, your may be frustrated with a team member who is spreading unnecessary (toxic) gossip. You can either blame this individual for the poor culture they are creating or you can reflect on why you are tolerating and not managing it. It's a hard pill to swallow, but often we don't realise we have choices on how we can react.

Once you take control by focussing the problem on yourself you gain your control back.

'The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but the thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation which is always neutral. It is as it is.' - Eckhart Tolle

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